In times of a spouse’s absence, it can be frustrating to solve problems in meeting personal and family needs. When a spouse gets time with the other spouse, it should be spent reaffirming their bond and intimacy with each other. The temporary hardship of long distance relationships makes the time spent together necessary and special.
Before speaking to a spouse, take out a pen and paper. Write down the problems. Then write down the resources available to one to solve the problems. By writing out possible avenues of solution, the problem might no longer be a problem.
Matters of the heart should be brought up with a spouse. Matters of crucial financial decisions should also be openly discussed. Petty matters should be left out of the conversation. Petty matters are things that will not matter tomorrow. Ask yourself if the perceived problem matters tomorrow and if the answer is no, keep it from the spouse.
Make use of the social support locally such as friends and family for petty things. Make use of the spouse for problem solving when it is vital to maintaining the relationship. Things most vital to a relationship consist of trust, open communications, finance, and sex.